Married happily to....Happily married!

I have often been accused of 'clinging' too much to the past..thinking of the times gone by..of being too nostalgic and so on...well..may be i am..love being that way..'coz i inherently believe..the person one is 'today' is fashioned profoundly by one's past..past experiences, successes, failures, mishaps..past is something like that 'birth mark' that always stays with you no matter how old or how ahead you get in life...

So, now as i near the two year mark of my 'married' life..i can't help but introspect! I have often been asked by my friends, family...'how has marriage changed your life?' and somehow i have always found myself at a loss of words answering that question...have either laughed it off or said something completely vague!!

Now i reckon it is time to give this thought some 'thought'! As i look back at the last two years..one feeling completely over rides every other emotion...'how less i knew of myself'..and 'how much i have discovered'...what a journey it has been...

It's been a journey where i have learnt (and still learning) what 'sharing a life' is, what the word 'us' actually means and that happiness lies in all the seemingly 'small and irrelevant' things and episodes...i always thought i am a very patient and calm individual (people around me said the same too)..but after being with T, i understand how significant the word 'relative' is (hahah!!)..he seems to me the epitome of composure and patience and makes me look impulsive!! (can u imagine!!)..there is a very fine line between being 'determined' and being 'stubborn' or may be they are just two sides of the same coin..i used to think i am a border-line case! but oh Boy...this man has completely revised the definition of 'determination' and 'stubborn-ness'...just wait till something gets into his head...he just never gives up!! (i have learnt my lesson and promised to myself i will never again ask him to fix anything in the laptop!!)

We are two individuals..as different and as similar as two can be..over the last two years..guess both of us have discovered new dimensions about our personalities..bringing out the best in each other..

You complement me..you complete me...you make me realise that 'marriage' is not just a ceremony and a date..it is an ongoing process..process of knowing and discovering each other, of sharing the good, bad and ugly..a relationship where i can be just myself...

As i embark on the journey from 'married happily' to being 'happily married', i don't think i have 'changed' or life has changed...yes i have certainly 'evolved' and life is becoming much more 'complete'....:-)